4. Sometimes, I want to hear, "you learn? You take good care of yourself?" I might need that little shock, beyond my pain I was moved to see a larger picture. 6. I hope someone can point out some of the new options or different roads, I might. Prior to this, make sure that the first time I heard and verification. Extramarital affairs are powerful. The transaction is expensive. They will affect your family, friends, colleagues and employers. Infidelity is an opportunity - to redesign their own way of life and love, create honor, joy, true intimacy. 2. Every so often, I want to hear something, "this too shall pass." Reminded me that this is not forever. . 1. Sometimes I want to vent, to get it out, did not examine. I know, sometimes I'll say something I should not say. It may not be pretty, pretty or mild. Please know, I know, but I need to get it off my chest. 9. I hope you can understand and welcome the ambivalent feelings and desires. I think you are quite comfortable gray area, I feel I may have to contradictions. 5. I may want space. I might want you to keep quiet, patient sort, because I try to express my thoughts and feelings. Give me some time to stammer, stutter and stumble my way through this. 8. I want to hear every so often, "how?" And, I hope that this is more than an informal greeting. Give me the time and space to let you know whether it is how to go. Their affair crisis told me they need from you: 3. I want to be validated. I want to know, I'm OK. Can do this nod to accept, when I talk about the pain or confusion. 7. When they jump into your mind, you think I might find useful proposals or other resources. 10. I think you can predict. I hope to be able to rely on there, listening, speaking always let me know when you can not do it. I will respect.